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To always be loved one must ever be agreeable....
| To always be loved one must ever be agreeable. |
| Lady Mary Wortley Montagu |
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| Name: Aya | 2012-06-20 |
| Another option that my best frenid and her husband chose: kids get the mother's last name as their middle name. Maybe you could do that, and also each take each others' last names as your own middle names?Personally, I don't like the idea of a new last name at all. It seems contrived. (Well, it would in fact be contrived, wouldn't it!). And I guess I like the historical continuance of family names. However, I took my husband's last name because I didn't like the idea of being an outsider in my own family, so I kind of understand your wanting to have the same last name as each other and your kids.It's funny. I didn't feel any loss of identity at all when giving up my maiden name, or feel in any way that it signified what kind of a marriage I was entering into. I have always been far more attached to my first name than to my last, I guess, and from a feminist perspective, I didn't see how keeping my father's name was any more enlightened than taking my beloved's.It's a hard one, Robin. Doubly so because the two of you have to make it together. Good luck! |
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